But He is a Young 5
At the start of the school year, I had more anxiety than my four year old (at the time) did. I was worried about bullying. I was worried about him being the youngest in his classroom. I was worried about being an involved parent.
A couple months into school all of these issues had been overcome. He turned out to be the social butterfly that meshed well with most of the kid, unlike me when I was his age. He turned out to be the youngest student in both kindergarten classes, turning 5 on the 11th of December.
It wasn’t until February when we hit a wall. A note came home about extra help in reading. Which I jumped on. We signed the permission slip for the extra help during school hours, and continued our flash cards, sight words, and reading at home. Everything we thought would continue to help him along.
But I wasn’t prepared for our parent-teacher conference this week. In the wake of news of our move, I have been trying to keep the kids on point, school work wise at least. Knowing we would be leaving before the end of the school year, we talked about options for finishing the year out somehow.
But, I was by no means ready for our Kindergarten teachers suggestion. Repeating Kindergarten. I felt like a giant, fat, failure of a mother. How could I suck so bad that my son is going to have to repeat the easiest grade there is!
As I tried to wrap my head around it all, his teacher brought up at least a dozen good points, all focusing around him being a young 5, and the fact that he is the youngest child in the entire school. Literally.
We thought he was ready for kindergarten, and by his preschool teacher’s standards, he was ready to move on. We all thought he would excel, and he did at a lot. But there are some areas he simply wasn’t mature enough to be ready for. Which I didn’t think would be an issue at all. I thought you are either ready, or not. I had no idea that your maturity level and focus could actually make you “not ready” for certain parts of learning. Like with his sight words.
The more I looked into it, the more I realized that had we lived in Florida this time last year, he wouldn’t have been allowed to register for Kindergarten, because he wouldn’t have met the age cut off.
I feel better knowing we will be in a new school for the repeating process because he won’t see most of his friends go on to first grade, while he hangs out in kindergarten for another year. He will also meet the age category for his new school. Those are my only comforting factors in it all.
I am still having an extremely rough time with it all. As I think any parent would. We all want our children to be perfect, and thrive. But sometimes you have to draw a line at what is actually good for your child, and what you think is good.